One thing I have noticed in Singapore is that it can be difficult for men over 45 or 50 to go about dating in the traditional ways in the country. I am personally 49 years of age, and can attest to this! I have faced such issues ever since I was in my early to mid 40s actually.
Here are some of the commonly recommended solutions I have tried, and the problems I have faced respectively.
Using mobile dating applications
While I am definitely still tech-savvy, and do not have any learning problems with any kind of technology related applications, I have to admit two very big issues I faced when it comes to using this to try to meet girls in Singapore.
First up, the problem I faced was that such swipe based dating applications are usually very heavily appearance based. People judge each other based on looks, and as you can possibly already guess, I am not the most handsome guy, and would definitely even say I may be below average!
Second of all, I do not feel comfortable understating my age, however, most girls in Singapore definitely pick age ranges when it comes to their dating preferences when indicating with such mobile applications. As a result, I believe my profile is not even being shown to the demographic which I like. Therefore, it is absolutely futile trying to get a match in this manner!
It can be quite disheartening, and after three consecutive years of trying this method to meet Singaporean women, I gave up, and deleted all such applications off my phone permanently.
Picking up local Singaporean chicks at the clubs
They think that I am of their father’s age. Since most of the local ladies who head over to clubs or bars are mostly in their twenties, and I certainly do not look young for my age, many of them actually ‘uncle-zone’ me.
Unless you intend to open a table, then maybe you can raise some eyebrows. While I have tried that before, the girls quickly lose interest once they learn about your age. I am not sure if going to the club is even a good idea for men to meet ladies in Singapore if you are above the age of 40, or if one looks like he’s in his 50s already, which I do!
Picking up ladies at bars throughout Singapore
This is actually not a bad idea – if you want to look for foreign nationality girls. You will be surprised at how much success you can potentially see with them when it comes to this method – looking for women at bars in Singapore. In fact, they like middle aged men more, as they usually represent more income and wealth stability.
Unfortunately, I only like Singaporean girls, and so this was quite annoying for me, as the locals are mostly unresponsive. I did go out with one girl for about one year plus through this method, so I will say that out of the above few traditional methods of trying to date in Singapore, this is probably the better way, though no way near effective.
If you are interested in this also, I am also recently secretly thinking about using the services of an escort in Singapore, specifically through an escort agency for a Singaporean girl…